Why did I get married?

The subject topic above just makes you remember the movie by Tyler Perry, for those that have seen it. It’s one of my favorite movies. A movie I don’t mind seeing over and over again. It’s a classic but well for those that follow his movies you just realize that he is a talented young man that promises satisfaction for your money.
For those that haven’t yet seen the movie, it’s about four families that got to a point in their marriages that they started asking themselves and their spouses “why did we get marrie

d”. They sought solutions in so many ways even in taking a vacation but nothing seemed to change but it rather got worse for them. It got so bad at the vacation that one of the couples had to divorce his spouse and started going out with his ex best friend. For more, check out …. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Why_Did_I_Get_Married_Too%3F!!!
I waited throughout this movie to find out if Tyler will by chance answer the question he posed, but the movie ended leaving more questions to be answered like should Christians just divorce and remarry as if it were an evening date? How much should you bear before you divorce? Who do you actually talk to when you have pressing marital issue and you can’t talk to your spouse? Which sex remains loyal after friends marry? Men or women! The questions seemed unending and I crossed my fingers hoping for a part two…. You know the saying-“save the best for last”
I hoped for not just a better part two but also wished the questions that stood glaring in part would be answer but the drama kept unfolding as the movie rolled. And for folks that already have phobia for marriage the part two didn’t promise anything better. But as long as you have a desire for something you can’t help but pull it towards you. Fortunately I stumbled into a message titled “Junk in the Trunk” and by the time I was through I found some answers to why people ask “why did I get married?”
One of the reasons especially for Christians is that they are pressured not to live a life filled with fornication. Most believers since they can’t handle the guilt of living in fornication decide to tie the marital knot. While trying to solve one problem they end up creating 10 other ones. They try to get right with God and get wrong with marriage. They make a temporal solution for a lasting problem. They just get married to discover that it takes more than sex to get married.
Secondly they try to avoid loneliness, so they think some kind of companionship is better than no kind of companionship and they settle down to have a company because they want to avoid having dinner alone, put on clothes and no one to zip it up. Yeah though loneliness can be a terrible thing, but you can be married and still be lonely and you can be single and still not be lonely also. They forget that short term problem solving creates long term misery.
Thirdly they get married to get away from self awareness. Single people should first learn how to date themselves. Some people run from themselves and don’t want to spend time by themselves alone. They then give themselves to someone in marriage but not only that they don’t know who the spouse is, they don’t know who themselves are. Spending time dating yourself, loving yourself helps you to esteem yourself. If you don’t have a plan, goal, purpose or even a strategy, you don’t have anything to offer. If you do have a good plan, it shouldn’t be built upon whether you find somebody or not. Your plans should be able to be carried out with or without a man
Spending time alone helps you discover who God is, who you are and who will fit you and be suitable for you. There was this scenario, two men were brought forward and one was well suited up while the other wore a pair of jeans and a tee shirt. The supposed will be that the man well dressed in his suit was the one with a good career and hence well paid/affluent and the other they will say he's a scrub, he should go get a job and all sorts but when they asked the man in the jeans and T-shirt he said he is an attorney then the crowd cheered.
The lesson drawn from it was that if a man with a job or a man in affluence can't be ascertained from how he's dressed why do men think by just seeing them we can know them. And if you can’t tell a well paid man from his looks which is visible how can you tell a wife-beater, an unfaithful partner or any invisible quality and trait by just looks alone. How can you tell a trunk that has the junk? Do all trunks have junks?
Maybe "how can you tell a trunk that's got a junk" should be the sequel to "why did I get married"