pursuit for love

MY SEARCH FOR LOVE AND COURAGE TO COMMIT (EPISODE ONE)
It’s been a whirlwind search. i saw people come up with different names to brand it, some perceived it as a feeling, while some felt it was about chemistry, others said it was some sorta attraction. I saw patterns reoccurring, its déjà vu. They called it “FALLING IN AND OUTTA LOVE” but I called it a sine wave love.
This search seems unending, the quest is unquenchable, and the lust is ever burning. We re-live our lives again, helpless of taking victory from same battles and experiences we’ve had. The tragedy of this pursuit is some search all through without ever getting an answer; some get the answer and are not able to use them because they are now weary and fearful from old experiences. You might actually be trying to fathom what I’m talking about, or you might as well know what this is all about. I have been on this road for awhile now but by the grace of God as I pen this note down i am now translated into the road on insight and true love.
I write just to help folks that have been on the same journey but won’t give up because they believe in reaching a place of true love. We just had a platform of reciting our routine and sharing our love with those we say we love but most of us barely know what we professed or shared. Unfortunately and unconsciously we just initiated folks into our aimless and fruitless cycle full of wrong emotions, heartbreaks lies and baggage. This cycle seems not to stop because in no time these new recruits realize we just promised lies and something we never had for them or could give them but they go out and install same software’s on others. A friend of mine said hurting people hurt people.
This write up is throwing light into what we feel we have and go about looking for whom to share it will but end up hurting them. It’s what we call LOVE and what we long to share- RELATIONSHIPS. Sorry for the coincidence that I have to put this up shortly after the most celebrated love event hosted each year. I didn’t mean to say you just didn’t celebrated it right again but I just want to make sure you didn’t do your routine again. We have practiced what we call love and leave the relationship we had worse than we entered. Some of go as far as making theories as why that didn’t work and what to do to make a new one work. We have had relationships experts tell us short cuts or 7 steps to know how to love or if you are in the right relationship but the result are more or less not far from what we usually get.
You might be thinking, where did I get the one I feel will work? Why do I feel what he has to say will work but I crave your indulgence to go down with me a bit. Have you asked yourself why you left your last relationship? If you are in a new one, why did I get into this relationship? What exactly I’m I searching for? Is what I’m actually searching for real and available? Is there any guarantee I’m going to get it in this new relationship? Why do I feel like giving up on love? Is there anything like love? The questions never seem to finish. The hazards and demerits of wrong and purposeless relationships can’t be overemphasized. It creates wrong mindsets about love and people amongst many others like fear, insecurity, etc. for example, a lady in a new relationship hears her boo tell her he loves her and what comes in to her mind is what the last guy actually meant when he said same thing, or even in cases where a lady leaves a relationship because she feels she was been cheated on might find a genuine guy who has same excuses her flame had and she goes like saying men are all the same. It’s not all tied to the females alone. Men still get thwarted views as a result of such. I’ve heard folks say women can’t be trusted; you only have them while they are with you maybe because of some error they had in their last relationship. We tend to now judge the statement and actions in our new relationships by old experience and attitude. We have lost every sense of camaraderie. Is there still hope?
Yes, only if you can stop at wherever you are and not continue spreading this virus. We are looking for in others what they don’t have and can’t give so our hopes get dashed and we all back at square one. It’s a demented cycle. Truth be told so many of us can relate to this note and I want to tell you as long as you seat tight you will get the drug but my fear remains If you will want to administer it? But if you feel you can’t relate with this struggle that got me here and you gat your well put together ill like you to take this evaluation test below
Toward the person you love or loved (if you not presently in one) or in relationship with-
Do you put your wants and desires above that of your partner or neighbor? Simply put, being selfish?
Do you think revenge or act in like manner?
Do you bring up there wrongs before them or have record of them?
Do you have insecurities concerning them?
Do you feel different about them when you have been hurt by them?
These questions will keep reeling off but if your answers to these questions remain undoubtedly NO throughout then u have a swell relationship and thank you for reading through, my journey ends here with you but if your answers have YES like mine does then continue with me.
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…….. My fellow YES members before I continue I will like to share what will help us understand the new order of love. A man came to Jesus tempting him saying which is the great commandment of the law?
And in Matthew 22:39 he answered, and the second is like unto it thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself
………….to be continued…stay glued